May the inward and outward woman be as one. May she stay grounded in fearless faith, surrounded in beauty, and always find the perfect red lipstick πŸ’‹

May the inward and outward woman be as one. May she stay grounded in fearless faith, surrounded in beauty, and always find the perfect red lipstick πŸ’‹

Without solitude, Love will not stay long by your side.
Because Love needs to rest as well, so that it can journey through the heavens and reveal itself in other forms.

Without solitude, no plant or animal can survive, no soil can remain productive for any length of time, no child can learn about life, no artist can create, no work can grow and be transformed.

Solitude is not the absence of Love, but its complement.

Solitude is not the absence of company, but the moment when our soul is free to speak to us and help us decide what to do with our life.
Therefore, blessed are those who do not fear solitude, who are not afraid of their own company, who are not always desperately looking for something to do, something to amuse themselves with, something to judge.

If you are never alone, you cannot know yourself.

And if you do not know yourself, you will begin to fear the void.
But the void does not exist. A vast world lies hidden in our soul, waiting to be discovered. There it is, with all its strength intact, but it is so new and so powerful that we are afraid to acknowledge its existence.

Just as Love is the divine condition, so solitude is the human condition. And for those who understand the miracle of life, those two states peacefully coexist.

Make a laptop last 200% longer by avoiding charging it to full capacity. Tech expert Nick McSpadden advises keeping the battery of laptops around 80% charged and unplugged most of the time. He explains, when a battery is maxed out at full power, the voltage gets too hot and the constant overheating eventually breaks down the battery’s cells. The battery will hold less and less of a charge.

Two more subtle tweaks that give more battery power is turning off Bluetooth and WIFI when you’re not using them and putting audio on mute.  

Recharge  a smartphone  50% faster by putting it into airplane mode. The phone will avoid searching for WIFI signals that drain the battery--try not to let a smartphone completely die and avoid turning it off and on, both are huge battery drainers. 

When in a rush, charge smartphones using a tablet charger. It delivers twice as many amps. 

Speed up your smartphone by deleting old apps and photos you don’t need. Believe it or not, voicemail and text messages take up a huge amount of space.   Go to settings, general, then usage to find out what’s taking up most of your space and delete it.

Most of us skip removing the factory settings from our television.  Factory settings are set at a very boring normal. To instantly enhance and brighten to a HD experience go to your TVs menu, choose screen setting or mode, then pick “Movie” “Cinema” or “THX” VIOLA! 

If you have your televisions model number visit the brands site for its ideal settings.

On what would be Johnny Cash’s 88th birthday what better way to celebrate the man, the artist, and the legend than writing about what he loved most—his marriage to June Carter. 

Johnny Cash and June Carter met backstage after an Elvis Presley concert in 1956.  June was a backup singer for Elvis and Elvis was a huge fan of Johnny’s music.  Before concerts, Elvis would play Johnny Cash songs over and over on a jukebox for June.   Elvis was convinced the two would hit it off and boy was he right.  The two immediately had an attraction to each other, but sadly, June and Johnny both were in marriages.   They started a friendship over the years but couldn’t deny the chemistry and the love they had for each other.  

Johnny and June eventually had to admit the attraction. June is quoted as saying, “I think I’m falling in love with Johnny Cash, and this is the most painful thing I’ve ever gone through in my life.” 
Johnny is quoted as saying, "He was unashamed in the fact that he’d been absolutely infatuated with June from the beginning, and knew that although he was married, he and June Carter were meant to be together.”  

Johnny tried to make June marry him multiple times during a  13 year relationship, and each time she denied him. Finally, in 1968, Johnny and June were engaged and soon after married. They had their first child, a son together in 1970. 


June later would describe their marriage as being “in a ring of fire,”  those words inspired the writing of “Ring of Fire” and as fate would have it, the song became one of Johnny’s number one hits. 

Throughout their marriage, Johnny struggled with addictions that almost killed him and he had several affairs.

It's assumed June stayed faithful and heartbroken. There was such a painful and unconditional love for Johnny that she stuck with him through it all.  She saw a bright light in Johnny. 

He reached many lows in his life, but never abandoned his faith in GOD and despite the rock and roll lifestyle, addictions, and life on the road, he was able to completely clean up. The two lived out the rest of their lives together for 35 years. He credited GOD’s unconditional grace and June’s unconditional love. 
June passed in 2003 from surgery complications. Johnny and their children were at her side. 

At his last performance  he performed  “Ring of Fire,” and explained that his wife’s sprit was there.  
"The spirit of June Carter overshadows me tonight with the love she had for me and the love I have for her. We connect somewhere between here and heaven, she came down for a short visit, I guess, from heaven to visit with me tonight to give me courage and inspiration like she always has."
Johnny would pass only a few months later. 

Aesha Ash is a retired New York City Ballet dancer. During most of her time as a dancer, she was the only woman of color. 

Growing up, Aesha remembers an image that really made an impression on her. It was an advertisement of a dancing woman of color  by the School of American Ballet.  It raised her spirits and she wanted to do that for others. 

Aesha understands the importance of imagery. 

If you go into any impoverished inner city, there is a bombardment of advertising that keeps kids from dreaming bigger. There’s no inspiration for the arts, especially dancing.  

 On the way to school, most of these kids see advertisements for pharmaceuticals, tobacco, fast food, and “sexy” girls in alcohol ads. 


Kids are super impressionable.  The images they see should inspire them not  reinforce  that a “partying” lifestyle is completely normal and "cool" 

It’s important to reshape beliefs at a young age when its much easier to dream bigger.   
 After some research on what it would take to advertise on billboards and buses in those areas, she realized it was quite expensive and out of her budget. She decided SHE would have to be the inspiring advertisement and set up the Swan Dream Project 

The Swan Dream Project's  mission is to bring light into the darkest of inner cities inspiring  little girls and boys to dream a bigger. 

Aesha uses her image and ballet background to take photos of herself in ethnically diverse areas. 

The photos depict a beautiful contrast yet they  portray a powerful message. Beauty isn't reserved for a few. All races and socioeconomic backgrounds deserve a chance to spark a dream and have it become a reality.  

Her photos can be purchased through her website.  100% of the profits go to low socioeconomics areas promoting the arts.  

She’s Ageless, stylish, funny, compassionate and with a career in the Guinness World Records spanning 80 years, there’s no sign of this glorious woman slowing down. 

Betty White is the epitome on how to age. 

She reminds us that aging is a gift, to keep moving or rust.  Laugh, laugh, then laugh some more, and that life doesn't slow down because you're a little old lady, so why become one?!  

Betty is very aware she's still HOT!  πŸ”₯πŸš’ 

Betty says, the secret to staying young is a hot dog a day, laughter, and a bad memory, that keeps her running up and down the stairs. 

She also credits her love of vodka. Betty loves her Grey Goose!” a close friend says, the star sometimes appears as if she’s overindulged on the top-shelf vodka. “They’ve had to help her walk out because she’s had a little too much enjoyment.” 

Well, Betty,  may all the hot dogs and vodka help you make it to 100!  Only 2 more years.....YOU GO GUUUURRRLLLL.......  Stay Golden. 

Lifestyle of Beauty Recommends: 

Want to spice up your life, avoid getting sick, and shed a couple of pounds?  Raid your rack!  (the one in your kitchen) πŸ˜‚ Become a spice fairy; 🧚 and  sprinkle the following spices on everything from tea, coffee, fruits, meats, and pastas. 

CUMIN:  Cumin’s anti-inflammatory properties improves memory and lowers stress.  

CINNAMON:  Not only does this tasty spice regulate blood sugar, it provides manganese, a mineral that maintains bone density.   

FENUGREEK:  Fenugreek is packed with fiber and does a great job at curbing your appetite. 

CLOVES:  A compound in ground cloves called eugenol  may soothe respiratory infections and an upset stomach.   
GINGER:  Ginger is great for post workouts. It contains gingerol, a natural anti-inflammatory that studies find reduce next day muscle pains AND ginger does a good job at easing period cramps and building up the immune system.  

Crushed Red Pepper: The capsaicin in crushed red pepper boost metabolism and when just 2 tbs of the spice is added to food; you'll eat fewer calories and fat throughout the day.     


TURMERIC:    Turmeric is truly a spice of life.  Its antioxidant and anti-inflammatory agent churchmen has several health benefits including reducing depression.  

        General Rule:  Lightweight Products should go under heavy ones. 

Serum:    Serums will stick to dirt and dead skin. For maximum absorption, cleanse the face thoroughly and while skin is still damp, massage two peas size drops of your favorite serum over your face for 60 seconds.

Retinol cream:  In order to reduce irritation, wait 20 minutes after washing the face  before applying retinoids to the skin. Applying a retinoid cream on damp skin, will cause is to absorb faster, increasing the chances of redness and irritated skin.   Retinol, especially prescription retinol, will lose its effectiveness in sunlight. They should only be applied at night.  Less is more. Apply two pea size dabs over your face,  and one pea size amount on the neck and chest.

Moisturizer:  If you have noticeably dry skin, use a moisturizer twice a day; If you have oily skin, use it once a day, preferably at night. Pay close attention to the cheeks and area around the mouth as they  tend to be the driest.  To trap moisture on the surface, its best to apply moisturizer on damp skin.  Pat and massage for 60 seconds.  DON’T RUB!

Sunscreen:   To ensure full protection when applying sunscreen,   start with about a quarter size amount and apply on the outside of the face first near the hair and jawline and move inwards.

Eye Cream:   Apply a pea size amount of eye cream under the eyes and on the UPPER lid close to the brow bone, creams tends to travel at least an inch downward after applied,  so, if you apply directly to the lower lid or near the lash line, the cream will get into the eyes and could make them irritated or puffy.  Eye creams should always be applied with the ring finger as its the weakest finger.


The park bench was deserted as I sat down to read. Beneath the long, straggly branches of an old willow tree.

Disillusioned by life with good reason to frown,
For the world was intent on dragging me down.

And if that weren't enough to ruin my day,
A young boy out of breath approached me, all tired from play.
He stood right before me with his head tilted down
And said with great excitement, "Look what I found!"

In his hand was a flower, and what a pitiful sight,
With its petals all worn - not enough rain, or too little light.
Wanting him to take his dead flower and go off to play,
I faked a small smile and then shifted away.

But instead of retreating he sat next to my side
And placed the flower to his nose
And declared with overacted surprise,
"It sure smells pretty and it's beautiful, too.
That's why I picked it; here, it's for you."

The weed before me was dying or dead.
Not vibrant of colors: orange, yellow or red.
But I knew I must take it, or he might never leave.
So I reached for the flower, and replied, "Just what I need."

But instead of him placing the flower in my hand,
He held it mid-air without reason or plan.
It was then that I noticed for the very first time
That weed-toting boy could not see: he was blind.

I heard my voice quiver; tears shone in the sun
As I thanked him for picking the very best one.
You're welcome," he smiled, and then ran off to play,
Unaware of the impact he'd had on my day.

I sat there and wondered how he managed to see
A self-pitying woman beneath an old willow tree.
How did he know of my self-indulged plight?
Perhaps from his heart, he'd been blessed with true sight.

Through the eyes of a blind child, at last I could see
The problem was not with the world; the problem was me.
And for all of those times I myself had been blind,
I vowed to see the beauty in life,
And appreciate every second that's mine.

And then I held that wilted flower up to my nose
And breathed in the fragrance of a beautiful rose
And smiled as I watched that young boy,
Another weed in his hand,

About to change the life of an unsuspecting old man.   


The right relationship is wonderful. Finding someone who complements your quirkiness and makes you a stronger and happier individual is beautiful.  Real love IS powerful, but  it starts with loving yourself first.  This sounds cliche, but in the new world of filters, it's getting harder to love the "real you" 

   Social media is doing a wonderful job at telling us who we should be, what we should look and act like.  If you don't have a strong sense of self,  it's all too easy to get warped into the illusion that changing your identity, then dating someone equally as attractive will lead to love.  

Dating apps are set up for physical attractions frequently leading to meaningless one night stands. With a swipe of a finger, your biggest void  can be filled for a night or two.  If you're lucky, a few months.   Too many people are unknowingly getting comfortable with meaningless one night stands or settling  into something toxic to show off to their friends.  And lets not forget the pressure if you hit 30.  According to society,   a woman in her 30s has absolutely no chance of finding real love. When in fact, that is a completely fear based perspective. The average age to have a kid is now 35  and study after study  shows that marrying in our 30s decreases the chance of divorce and marriages end up healthier and happier. It makes sense. By our 30s, we  are better communicators and educated mentally, physically and spiritually.   We have a stronger understanding of what love requires. Settling because you just hit thirty is ridiculous. Love doesn't have an age requirement and it sure as hell isn't a photoshoot for your friends. Love is a commitment to become two stronger individuals that will make your lives and the lives around you better. Love itself is a teacher of many valuable lessons: patience, kindness, unselfishness, confidence. Corinthians 13:4-13 Love never has been and never will be a way to fill a void. This cycle is very dangerous and rarely has a happy ending.  
Being single is not something to be embarrassed about. It is a prerequisite to having a strong, loving, and supporting relationship with another individual.
When there isn't a sense of self, the other person becomes more of a therapist than a partner.  They have to validate you over and over about who they think you are, because you really aren't sure yourself.  It is selfish and exhausting.  

You need to show up for yourself first. Prove you can make it alone.  Love yourself completely. Know the good, the bad, the ugly, and most importantly the beautiful.  Doing this will protect you from jumping into a  codependent relationship  and hey, if a relationship does fail, you know you'll be okay. 

Signs That You Still Need To Work On Yourself 
❤ You are insecure and need consistent validation on how attractive you are.
❤ You are afraid of doing anything alone. 
❤ You feel that a relationship is the only way you'll be happy. 
❤  You find the person you're dating more of a time constraint than partner. 
❤ You become an uncontrollable emotional wreck after break ups. 
Growth Requires Discomfort.  

It will take a lot of introspective work, but I don’t know about you, a little work to become a  well- rounded partner of value sounds worth it. I would much rather my partner know what they're getting into beforehand and to have the reassuring thought that they chose the authentic me. The good, bad, ugly, messy, beautiful me.  That itself sounds like a happily ever after.  

Successful Single Woman by Choice. 

 If  you should discover that marriage isn't for you and loving yourself is enough. That's okay too. There are many successful single women you can look up to as role models. Some of the greats of yesterday and today are:

Coco Chanel

"My life didn’t please me, so I created my life."
 Coco is  one of the most iconic  women who understood the toxicity of being in an unloving relationship. She chose to stay single and built a fashion empire.  She was an incredibly strong-willed woman who was fiercely independent. 

Marianne Williamson

"Nothing binds you except your thoughts; nothing limits you except your fear; and nothing controls you except your beliefs."
While having a background as a self-help teacher since the 90s and Oprah Winfreys spiritual advisor, Marianne has been single for most of her life.  Marianne has developed a strong sense of who she is and the importance of "un-settling" that has allowed her to help millions of people with their own development. 

Jane Austen

"We all have a better guide in ourselves, if we would attend to it, than any other person can be."
The de facto founder of chick lit, Jane Austen never married, yet she wrote profoundly moving romance novels. The story, ‘First Impressions’ would eventually become one of the most beloved novels of many women, Pride and Prejudice.
 She is one of the most studied authors still today. 

Remember all of this when you are feeling anxious about being single. Allow it to be an incredible opportunity for growth. 

Not All Those Who Wander Are Lost
1. Black Blazer.  One can never go wrong with a classic black blazer. Forever feminine with a masculine twist, it will bring a chic look to any outfit and can be worn day to night. Pair it with jeans, dresses, trousers and skirts. A black blazer complements all body types. 

2. Little Black Dress. This is by far the easiest way to dress up on the go.  A black dress with sneakers can go from a casual day look to fierce evening wear just by changing into stilettos. Invest in a little black dress that hugs your curves and makes you feel unstoppable.  

  3.  A Flattering Red Lipstick.  Everyone feels pretty in lipstick, but red lipstick is  a big confidence booster and quickly brightens the whole face, which is  especially nice  on those  "I don't feel so pretty days."  Choose a neutral red  that is flattering to the skin tone and can be worn both day and night. 

4. Coffee.  Study after study show the amazing anti- aging benefits of not only drinking coffee, but applying it topically.  Not to mention, when paired with a good mascara, you'll get an instant eye lift.  

5.  A Cute Journal. Naturally, women are expressive.  Getting our thoughts and feelings out is imperative. A recent Harvard study showed that those that expressed gratitude daily were  undeniably happier.  It’s probably better to tell your journal someone is an A$$hole.  It will save a lot of your relationships.  

  6. The Right Heels.   Heels are an immediate confidence booster. They increase height making you stand a little taller, accentuate curves, helping you feel a little sexier and the showoff those calf muscles. O’la la  “The right shoes can change your life ~ just ask Cinderella.” 

7. Sunglasses. This must have is non-negotiable.  Sunglasses not only protect eyes from damaging sun rays, but they make us look sexy, classy and cool. Even on a hangover day.  

 8. Sunblock.  Don't leave home without it.  90% of aging is from UV rays. 

From the Huffington Post-“This man's face is possibly the most compelling argument for wearing sunscreen. Every day, all day, and lots of it.

Truck driver Bill McElligott, 69, has unilateral dermatoheliosis, according to The New England Journal of Medicine. Essentially, ultraviolet A (UVA) rays transmitted through the window of his delivery truck have severely damaged the skin on the left side of his face during the 28 years he has spent driving on the job.”

9. Breath Mints Never let your breath make a first impression for you.  Carry a mint. 

10. The most important thing We can't live without.......CONFIDENCE Work on it Every. Single. Day.   To make the most of yourself, you must have the confidence to begin with.