May the inward and outward woman be as one. May she stay grounded in fearless faith, surrounded in beauty, and always find the perfect red lipstick πŸ’‹

May the inward and outward woman be as one. May she stay grounded in fearless faith, surrounded in beauty, and always find the perfect red lipstick πŸ’‹

        General Rule:  Lightweight Products should go under heavy ones. 

Serum:    Serums will stick to dirt and dead skin. For maximum absorption, cleanse the face thoroughly and while skin is still damp, massage two peas size drops of your favorite serum over your face for 60 seconds.

Retinol cream:  In order to reduce irritation, wait 20 minutes after washing the face  before applying retinoids to the skin. Applying a retinoid cream on damp skin, will cause is to absorb faster, increasing the chances of redness and irritated skin.   Retinol, especially prescription retinol, will lose its effectiveness in sunlight. They should only be applied at night.  Less is more. Apply two pea size dabs over your face,  and one pea size amount on the neck and chest.

Moisturizer:  If you have noticeably dry skin, use a moisturizer twice a day; If you have oily skin, use it once a day, preferably at night. Pay close attention to the cheeks and area around the mouth as they  tend to be the driest.  To trap moisture on the surface, its best to apply moisturizer on damp skin.  Pat and massage for 60 seconds.  DON’T RUB!

Sunscreen:   To ensure full protection when applying sunscreen,   start with about a quarter size amount and apply on the outside of the face first near the hair and jawline and move inwards.

Eye Cream:   Apply a pea size amount of eye cream under the eyes and on the UPPER lid close to the brow bone, creams tends to travel at least an inch downward after applied,  so, if you apply directly to the lower lid or near the lash line, the cream will get into the eyes and could make them irritated or puffy.  Eye creams should always be applied with the ring finger as its the weakest finger.

Want to spice up your life? Want to avoid getting sick, and shed a couple of pounds while doing it?  Raid your rack!  (the one in your kitchen) πŸ˜‚  and become a spice fairy; sprinkle the following  spices on everything from tea, coffee, fruits, meats, and pastas..... 

CUMIN:  Cumins anti-inflammatory properties improves memory and lowers stress.  

CINNAMON:  Not only does this tasty spice regulate blood sugar, but it also provides manganese, a mineral that helps maintain bone density.   

FENUGREEK:  Fenugreek is packed with fiber and does a great job at curbing your appetite. 

CLOVES:  A compound in ground cloves called eugenol  may soothe respiratory infections and an upset stomach.   

GINGER:  Ginger is great for post workouts. It contains gingerol, a natural anti-inflammatory that studies find reduce next day muscle pains AND ginger does a good job at easing period cramps and building up the immune system.  

Crushed Red Pepper: The capsaicin in crushed red pepper boost metabolism and when just 2 tbs of the spice is added to food; you'll eat fewer calories and fat throughout the day.     



TURMERIC:    Turmeric is truly a spice of life.  Its antioxidant and anti-inflammatory agent churchmen has several health benefits including reducing depression.  

The right relationship is wonderful. Finding someone who complements your quirkiness and makes you a stronger and happier individual is beautiful.  Real love IS powerful, but  it starts with loving yourself first. 

  In this new age world, social media is doing a wonderful job at telling us who we should be.  If you don't have a strong sense of self,  it's all too easy to get warped into the illusion that changing your identity, especially the physcial parts, will lead to love. 

Plastic surgery is on the rise, but happiness is no where to be found.  Dating apps are set up more for physical attractions, frequently leading to meaningless one night stands. They are a good distraction from the bigger issues. With a swipe of a finger, your biggest void  can be filled for a night or two.  If you're lucky, a few months.   Too many people are unknowingly getting comfortable with unhappiness. It has become the norm to settle into something toxic, rather than real, just to show off to their friends.  We're forgetting what the true meaning of happiness means--Being comfortable within our own skin, loving who we are and sharing that person with another, who will truly appreciate all aspects of our being.  
There's Just Too Much Pressure. It's Time To Self Reflect. 
Society puts too much pressure on the image of   a  "perfect" relationship  versus a real, every day relationship. Society also makes it a point to  remind women there's a time limit to fall in love. According to society,   a woman in her 30s has absolutely no chance of finding real love. When in fact, that is a completely fear based perspective. The average age to have a kid is now 35  and study after study  shows that marrying in our 30s decreases the chance of divorce and marriages end up healthier and happier. It makes sense. By our 30s, we  are better communicators and educated mentally, physically and spiritually.   We have a stronger understanding of what love requires. Love is not a photoshoot for your friends. Love is a commitment to become two stronger individuals that will make your lives and the lives around you better. Love itself is a teacher of many valuable lessons: patience, kindness, unselfishness, confidence. Corinthians 13:4-13 Love never has been and never will be a way to fill a void. This cycle is very dangerous and rarely has a happy ending.  
Being single is not something to be embarrassed about. It is a prerequisite to having a strong, loving, and supporting relationship with another individual.
When there isn't a sense of self, the other person becomes more of a therapist than a partner.  They have to validate you over and over about who they think you are, because you really aren't sure yourself.  It is selfish and exhausting.  

You need to show up for yourself first. Prove you can make it alone.  Love yourself completely. Know the good, the bad, the ugly, and most importantly the beautiful.  Doing this will protect you from jumping into a  codependent relationship  and hey, if a relationship does fail, you know you'll be okay. 

Signs That You Still Need To Work On Yourself 
❤ You are insecure and need consistent validation on how attractive you are.
❤ You are afraid of doing anything alone. 
❤ You feel that a relationship is the only way you'll be happy. 
❤  You find the person you're dating more of a time constraint than partner. 
❤ You become an uncontrollable emotional wreck after break ups. 
Growth Requires Discomfort.  

It will take a lot of introspective work, but I don’t know about you, a little work to become a  well- rounded partner of value sounds worth it. I would much rather my partner know what they're getting into beforehand and to have the reassuring thought that they chose the authentic me. The good, bad, ugly, messy, beautiful me.  That itself sounds like a happily ever after.  

Successful Single Woman by Choice. 

 If  you should discover that marriage isn't for you and loving yourself is enough. That's okay too. There are many successful single women you can look up to as role models. Some of the greats of yesterday and today are:

Coco Chanel

"My life didn’t please me, so I created my life."
 Coco is  one of the most iconic  women who understood the toxicity of being in an unloving relationship. She chose to stay single and built a fashion empire.  She was an incredibly strong-willed woman who was fiercely independent. 

Marianne Williamson

"Nothing binds you except your thoughts; nothing limits you except your fear; and nothing controls you except your beliefs."
While having a background as a self-help teacher since the 90s and Oprah Winfreys spiritual advisor, Marianne has been single for most of her life.  Marianne has developed a strong sense of who she is and the importance of "un-settling" that has allowed her to help millions of people with their own development. 

Jane Austen

"We all have a better guide in ourselves, if we would attend to it, than any other person can be."
The de facto founder of chick lit, Jane Austen never married, yet she wrote profoundly moving romance novels. The story, ‘First Impressions’ would eventually become one of the most beloved novels of many women, Pride and Prejudice.
 She is one of the most studied authors still today. 

Remember all of this when you are feeling anxious about being single. Allow it to be an incredible opportunity for growth. 

Not All Those Who Wander Are Lost
1. Black Blazer.  One can never go wrong with a classic black blazer. Forever feminine with a masculine twist, it will bring a chic look to any outfit and can be worn day to night. Pair it with jeans, dresses, trousers and skirts. A black blazer complements all body types. 

2. Little Black Dress. This is by far the easiest way to dress up on the go.  A black dress with sneakers can go from a casual day look to fierce evening wear just by changing into stilettos. Invest in a little black dress that hugs your curves and makes you feel unstoppable.  

  3.  A Flattering Red Lipstick.  Everyone feels pretty in lipstick, but red lipstick is  a big confidence booster and quickly brightens the whole face, which is  especially nice  on those  "I don't feel so pretty days."  Choose a neutral red  that is flattering to the skin tone and can be worn both day and night. 

4. Coffee.  Study after study show the amazing anti- aging benefits of not only drinking coffee, but applying it topically.  Not to mention, when paired with a good mascara, you'll get an instant eye lift.  

5.  A Cute Journal. Naturally, women are expressive.  Getting our thoughts and feelings out is imperative. A recent Harvard study showed that those that expressed gratitude daily were  undeniably happier.  It’s probably better to tell your journal someone is an A$$hole.  It will save a lot of your relationships.  

  6. The Right Heels.   Heels are an immediate confidence booster. They increase height making you stand a little taller, accentuate curves, helping you feel a little sexier and the showoff those calf muscles. O’la la  “The right shoes can change your life ~ just ask Cinderella.” 

7. Sunglasses. This must have is non-negotiable.  Sunglasses not only protect eyes from damaging sun rays, but they make us look sexy, classy and cool. Even on a hangover day.  

 8. Sunblock.  Don't leave home without it.  90% of aging is from UV rays. 

From the Huffington Post-“This man's face is possibly the most compelling argument for wearing sunscreen. Every day, all day, and lots of it.

Truck driver Bill McElligott, 69, has unilateral dermatoheliosis, according to The New England Journal of Medicine. Essentially, ultraviolet A (UVA) rays transmitted through the window of his delivery truck have severely damaged the skin on the left side of his face during the 28 years he has spent driving on the job.”

9. Breath Mints Never let your breath make a first impression for you.  Carry a mint. 

10. The most important thing We can't live without.......CONFIDENCE Work on it Every. Single. Day.   To make the most of yourself, you must have the confidence to begin with. 

We're always  writing down quotes that lift our spirits, inspire, motivate, make us laugh and/or create curiosity.  Like This one..... "Science will never be able to reduce the value of a sunset to arithmetic. Nor can it reduce friendship to formula. Laughter and love, pain and loneliness, the challenge of beauty and truth: these will always surpass the scientific mastery of nature" ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Over the years, we've collected quite a few quotes on a lot of different topics. Here are  a 10 of our most cherished quotes that reflect  the essence of Lifestyle of Beauty. We hope you enjoy them. XO


One of the top searches in the cosmetic world is how to treat dark circles. 

So, what is the cause?

There are five main causes of dark under eyes and puffiness. Each cause will be treated differently. It is important to find out what is causing your dark circles and puffiness and then choose the most efficient eye treatment, to avoid wasting time and money. 

1.  The natural aging process

No one likes to think about the aging process, but as we age, most of us will get at least one of these distressing conditions. Most women notice their first signs of aging around the eyes. 

As we age, the ligaments that hold a certain amount of fat in the eye area gets weaker allowing fat to push forward and that is what forms the puffiness under the eye. 

Dark circles become visible with age because the skin on our faces gets thinner.  Ronald Moy,  a dermatologist at UCLA, studied dark circles and puffiness caused by the aging process. He says, the best thing to do for aging eyes is to use a Retin-A cream made for the eye area. Retin-A has been proven to help slow down eye aging and increase collagen levels.
2.  Hereditary 


It could be that mom and dad passed down this genetic issue. The genes related to dark circles around the eyes are the genes that cause weakened blood vessels and capillaries in the skin.  

The inheritance of an abnormal lymph circulation is the cause of puffiness.  Skin tone, including transparency of the skin, is also inherited and can make dark circles appear more dramatic.  If you were unlucky and inherited dark circles or puffiness, don't panic!  Although, creams will probably not work for you, there are fillers from the doctor's office such as, Restalyne and Juvederm that will help take the edge off or it could diminish the darkness. If you're really desperate, there is a surgical procedure called blepharoplasty for puffiness. 

If you're not ready for the needle or surgery- concealer is a great alternative.  But, don't glob on a bunch of concealer, this will only make the under eye area look cakey and dry making you look older.  Put on an eye cream first.  Make sure the eye cream include at least one of these ingredients: haloxyl, caffeine, hyaluronic acid, vitamin K, vitamins AC& E or Retinol. All of these ingredients will slowly treat under eye issues and will make the under-eye area smoother

 3. Lifestyle Choices

  "I heard recently in Jay Leno's monolog that I call myself the Machine. I've never called myself the Machine. It was a nickname my friends gave me in the old days because when they were all ready to go home, I was always the last guy standing, insisting that the party continue."-Charlie Sheen

 Partying like a "Ma-Sheen" is a guaranteed way to wake up with dark circles and puffiness. If it’s not from being punched in the eye by a hooker- more than likely, it's from a lack of sleep.  

When the body doesn't obtain an adequate amount of sleep, the face generally looks paler. Pale skin makes dark circles look darker AND not drinking enough water, drinking too much alcohol, or caffeine, without replenishing electrolytes in the body will cause major dehydration. In fact, dark circles are the number one sign of dehydration. 

Let's not forget diet. A diet low in iron, an extreme calorie restricting diet, and foods that cause fluid retention, such as, too much salt, causes blood vessels under the eyes to dilate and engorged contributing to dark circles and puffiness. 

If the cause of your dark circles and puffy eyes is due to partying too hard, a change of lifestyle is needed. Your skin will thank you. Instead of partying seven nights a week, try partying three or four nights and don't forget, your skin needs a balanced diet to stay healthy. Make sure your diet contains an adequate amount of iron to avoid anemia, a condition that can cause the skin to become pale. Eat a low salt diet and drink at least eight, 8oz cups of water a day. If you just can’t stop partying, always carry a bottle of water, a good eye cream and heavy coverage concealer with you and may the force be with you.  

4. Allergies

Yes, allergies!  It's a condition of hypersensitivity to a substance. Allergies cause dark circles and puffiness in two ways: first, when the body is allergic to a substance it releases histamine causing dark smudges and "puffed" eyes.  Second, the itchy eyes that come with allergies cause us to rub our eyes and rubbing the eyes and the skin around the eyes make dark circles even darker.                                                                                                                                                         
If allergies are the culprit of your dark under eye circles and puffy eyes, then determine what is causing the allergy and eliminate it. You can also have a doctor test you for allergies. An antihistamine such as Allegra-D can help alleviate allergy symptoms and possibly get rid of your dark circles. The more natural route is eating local honey.     

5.  Sun exposure

 Too much sun does more harm than good. The sun is one of the avoidable causes of dark circles. The sun prompts your body to produce more melanin, the pigment that gives skin its color more pigment under the eyes equals darker circles. Always wear an eye treatment with an SPF 15 or higher under the eye area.  ( Try self-tanner as an alternative to the sun)