SELF CONFIDENCE BEGINS THE MOMENT YOU TRULY FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF
Self Confidence doesn't need consistent validation.
Self-confidence doesn’t happen overnight, but with an ACTIVE and constant reminder that you are amazing, the chances of becoming your most confident self-skyrockets!
First, you must cease negative thinking. (Easier said than done). We need to reach the subconscious where these beliefs are stored. Take a pause and ask yourself how much you truly believe about the thought. Rate it on a scale of 1 to 10. with 10 being believing it A LOT. Now we need to get to the WHY of why you feel this way. Grab a pen and a journal. Each day for at least 10 minutes, Write at the top of your journal, why do I feel this way? Listen with no judgement. Usually, it's because of what someone else has said or has done to you-You are "drinking someone else's poison." Listen to a self confidence building meditation while you write. After you're done, write down positive attributes and talents and good habits you have and tape them where you can read them every single day. Keep reading and writing until your rating system is at a realistic number. For example 3/10
“There is only one cause of unhappiness: the false beliefs you have in your head, beliefs so widespread, so commonly held, that it never occurs to you to question them.” – Anthony de Mello
• BEWARE OF PERFECTION. IT DOESN’T EXIST.
In her book A World Sold On Image: The Truth About Really Beauty Lisa D'Anna reminds us that no one really remembers us for being perfect and it is usually the "flaws" that are adored by our friends and family. There is a mismatch in the way we perceive our vulnerabilities and how others interpret them. Some "flaws" are actually alluring. In psychology this phenomenon is known as the "The Beautiful Mess Effect."
FORGIVE YOURSELF FOR “SCREWING UP.” EVERY ‘MISTAKE’ IS A LEARNING OPPORTUNITY.
CHECK OUT THESE BEAUTIFUL 'MISTAKES' BELOW.
• TRY NEW HOBBIES. Learning something new, especially a sport or activity(painting, surfing, golf or learning an instrument) that requires focus and skill is the easiest way to build confidence.
• VOLUNTEER with a cause that touches your heart. Making a positive difference in someone else's life makes you realize just how small your problems may be.
• EXERCISE DAILY and get a hug! Both touch and exercise boosts endorphins, making you feel happier, reduces stress and with exercise, as you get fitter, you'll naturally feel stronger and more confident without even trying.
• VOLUNTEER with a cause that touches your heart. Making a positive difference in someone else's life makes you realize just how small your problems may be.
• EXERCISE DAILY and get a hug! Both touch and exercise boosts endorphins, making you feel happier, reduces stress and with exercise, as you get fitter, you'll naturally feel stronger and more confident without even trying.
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